Everywhere I look people are having babies!! Or I'm having conversations about trying to have babies!
This would be fine except I have the "fever". No not the Beiber fever...the BABY fever.
It might be because Dh has baby fever real bad. Or the fact that my 18 month old can now speak in sentences...but I'm starting with the fever!
How close are your children in age? I don't want too much space. But I also want to be settled in my career,etc
**Also, with having a baby, I am stressed to think that something will happen again. Everyone tells us that things should work out, etc. But it would be crazy for us not to think that something could go wrong. I think that is part of my "Should we have another baby" fear. I know that this is completely normal.
PLUS Everyone I know who has two + babies tells me that you love them all the same and that your heart "just grows"...is this true? Do you "just" love them the same? Or do you have a favorite?
We got pregnant when Madison was 18 months so she will be just over two when I have this next one, that is the largest gap we wanted but it has definitely slowed down my career for now
ReplyDeleteI think that now would be a great time to start again...but all the "what ifs" keep coming up!
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ReplyDeleteHaving had a miscarriage between my first and second the fear is always there that something could happen :(
ReplyDeleteSpacing is not something you can always control, we never planned to have the 2 yr and 7 months that are between the first two kids. Then our third was a HUGE surprise and there is only 19 months between her and Maxx. He was only 9 1/2 months old and I was still fully breastfeeding him when I got pregnant with Roxxie. Life is crazy, hectic but absolutely amazing and I wouldn't change anything :-)
We wanted 3-4 yrs btw kids before we had any. Dd1 was here and we adjusted. By 12 months, dh was in the throes of baby fever. I was adamant about nursing for 2 full years, so it took another year for me to get on board. For dd1's third birthday, I got a positive pregnancy test. I love the 3 yr 9 month age gap btw them. Big sister is able to participate and to understand that sometimes the baby needs attention.
ReplyDeleteNow if we could just agree on how many kids we want....
Honestly, I think that it depends on what your preference is. Obviously 9 years between Faith and Lilah is a lot and we're def not going to do that big of a wait this time around as I want to be done having kids before I'm 30. We were originally thinking towards the end of the summer when Lilah is around 21 months old that we would start "trying" again. Not sure if that's the plan or not yet becuz of finances, but I also know that finances are always going to be tight...either way. It's going to be a big change because I can give Lilah the same attention that Faith got as a baby and that's what worries me about having another so close that while having a toddler running around I'll be busier too. Your hear definately grows, before Lilah was born I had told Jimmy I was worried about loving her the same as Faith, and it just happens - you love all your babies equally just differently. Because obviously my relationship with my now 10 year old is much different than mine with the 16 month old. I have arguments with Faith that I don't have with Lilah (yet haha). You guys will figure out what's right for you. Good luck lovie!
ReplyDeleteI have bieber fever AND baby fever! Not sure my hubby wants any more though! My kids are 2 years, 4 months and we love it.
ReplyDeletepatrick and david are 2 years apart...they are really close and are best friends (mostly). they are into all the same games, toys, movies...which makes life a little easier. autumn is 5 years younger than david. having those 5 years in between did make for some adjusting to our family life...with just the 2 boys, we were at a time when we didnt have to worry about diapers or naptimes. that being said...with each baby, you as a parent become more confident. you dont have the same worries and obsessions, like you have with the first baby...and as far as baby fever goes, i dont think i will ever be rid of it. right now we both think our family is complete...but the thought of "just one more" is always in the back of my mind.
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