When Dave and I talk about having babies we are thrown into a head on debate about circumcision. Yes...it's a huge debate. And until we can decide (or basically tell him I'm correct) we're not having a baby.
Obviously it's a huge issue to cover and we need to decide this before we conceive.
What's your take? I'm against. He's for. No judging here. I don't judge. I live for debates, but no attacking.
I think if parents do not agree then it should be a no go.
ReplyDeleteThere is a lot of info out there as to why it really is a completely unnecessary procedure and is not worth the risks associated. It would be prudent for anyone (not just your hubby) considering it as an option to look at it. And after that if he's still adamant? There are medical circumcision videos available to watch online.
I have done tons and tons of research about it. I've told him...now it's time for him to see it...you're right.
ReplyDeleteMy husband and I are in the same boat, same positions. I am pregnant now, due in 6 weeks, but we don't know the sex. That makes it a bit easier to "put off" the decision, so right now we don't argue about it much... but the truth is, there's no way to compromise and neither of us are changing our minds. I think we might go talk to our pastor if we do have a boy, just to get some advice on resolving the conflict! I really want to be a respectful wife, and I value my husband's opinion on everything, and I'm the type of person who would rather have peace than be right. But this is different! I am curious to see what happens. If it's a boy, I'm hoping that the cost (insurance won't cover it) plus the hassle (I won't consent to it) plus all the reasons not to do it, plus being head-over-heels for our new baby, will all help change my husband's mind. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteI leave this decision up to DH. I don't have a penis, so I figure I'm not an expert on "to circ or not to circ." DH is pro circ btw.
ReplyDeletewe circumsized. I guess I thought about things concerning how he may feel about it in the future, cleanliness, and how others may also feel about it. In all honesty, i don't go strong one way or another- but it was just what we decided. I'm also the person who had my daughters ears pierced at 5 1/2 months old which is another unnecessary thing to do, but in my opinion, less painful to experience then rather than as an adult seeing that she wont remember.
ReplyDeleteThank you for all your honest answers! Like I said, I don't and wont judge. I just feel like with all the research out there it is hard to ignore! It is the same with breastfeeding! I saw the research and made a decision for my family! It was the best one for us is, but I know it is not always the best for everyone else!
ReplyDeleteStephanie, what a debate! Though not a mother, I've considered what I would do if I was going to be. Through my own investigating it seems like this is more the preference of the male (wanting it done) due to most others being circumcised, cleanliness and appearance. However, males who have sufficient self esteem and are not circumcised don't really seem to care!
ReplyDeleteThere are a lot of risks, not to mention the trauma to the child. Personal opinion on that last part, not too many seem to agree with me.
My husband and I had never discussed it, but once I read your post I asked him. After explaining how that was on my mind at 10:45 at night (especially considering I am not pregnant), he said he is completely for it. I had always assumed we would (he is, our families do) but an interesting topic to talk about! My friend dated a guy who wasn't and he had issues with it (she isn't go into detail) and was very embarrassed by it. He ended up having it done at 25 and he said it was very painful at that age. I love learning about all these things to consider when you have a baby that I hadn't previously thought of. I think it's great to be so invested in the decision!
ReplyDeletehhmmm, does he want a potential son circumcised just because he is? I live in New Zealand and it is very rare for a male baby to be circumcised here, i have 3 sons and none were, they have never had an issue with cleanliness and think you will find that there is no difference with infection between the two camps.I worked in a maternity ward for a short time during my nursing training and the most traumatic thing i had to do was assist in a circumsicion, the poor litle baby was so traumatised, in the end you have to go with what is the best for this wee baby! good luck♥
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