So, I have been in my fair share of weddings. One of my girlfriends was kidding around recently and told me that I am the "token pretty friend". I know that sounds conceited...but really, I have been in at least 3 weddings a year for the past six years.
I agreed to be in my friend Meaghan's wedding a few months ago. Knowing that the wedding was Memorial Day weekend, and knowing our past history, I agreed, I was hesitant, but I agreed. I was once very close to this girl, inseparable in 2007. But after her divorce, and after my busy life, life got the best of us and we kept in touch, but were no longer close.
Fast forward to now. I have gone dress shopping, paid for the dress, planned the shower with two other girls (one being her sister M and one her fiances best friends wife L), had the shower, gone to the bachelorette party and now am waiting ever so patiently for the end of the road where I can go to the rehearsal dinner and then boom...the wedding.
Meaghan is one of those people who I will always care for. We have history. I do love her silliness and how she is a great mother.....But, recently she hasn't been the nicest person to me. Maybe it's wedding jitters, and as a bridesmaid you take those things out on your friends...but she has embarrassed me in front of groups of people lately.
At the shower Meaghan let me know that I was too pretty...don't know what that meant...but ok. People were staring at me...and I didn't know how to respond. I laughed it off and kept serving punch. It was not in the "hey you are pretty and my friend, yeay" kind of way...it was mean "You are TOO pretty"...so you want me to ugly it down? Ok. Duly Noted. (and she just did it again on a fb photo of the two of us...so strange...stop commenting meanly about how I am pretty...just stop...now it's getting awkward. I know you think I am pretty, I promise you will be the spotlight at your wedding)
And again, back to her shower I met a great girl, we became facebook friends and she recently commented on my wall. MY wall. Not me on hers, she posted on MINE. Meaghan commented under the post and told me to stop stalking her friends. Now, really? I didn't initiate anything. I don't care if she likes me or not. But COME'ON (insert Gob voice here...all you arrested development fans already know what I am referring to..the rest of you probably think I am just crazy...yes, yes I am)!!!!!!!!! Don't you want your friends to like your other friends? Yes? And honestly, doesn't that mean that you did a great job at picking out these so called friends because other people think that they are awesome too? Maybe she was jealous that people actually like me, because most people do! She made sure to let me know in front of her group of girls at the Bachelorette party that my "new" best friend was not going to be there. News Flash Meg...I have a group of best friends, one lives in MD and the other two I have known since HS...don't have any room for that title...but thanks!
There are also issues I have with L, the other bridesmaid. There is no hierarchy in this wedding. But if I had to pick, Meaghan's sister would be the MOH. L is full force crazy. Must be in everything. Must plan everything. Must have it her way. M (the sister), doesn't care because it is less for her to do....and I don't care because I am more invested in another wedding I have at the end of this summer...one that I actually want to be in and feel like the bride actually wants me there! But she keeps making things a competition. She is the "one upper"..."Stephanie did you make those meatballs by scratch", "No L I didn't have time", "Oh Stephanie, that is too bad, I usually get up at 4 and grind my own meat, and then take my own dried bread crumbs and combine them with secret spies"....yeah...one of those...
Ok, so back to L...she went and spent TONS of money for the shower that was not necessary. She over spent, so I told her I would compensate her and pay for her at the Bach party...fast forward to Saturday night...I was at the very end of the table, and they told me what to pay. I overheard L talking to another girl about the money situation and how "she was supposed to pay more" and so I loudly replied (because I can keep my cool for only so long): "Hey L, I know I owe you money FOR the shower, do you want me to pay now, or give you money when I see you next week"? She turned red, the other girl she was talking shit to turned red...and said we could talk about it later. I smiled. I have smiled, and grinned and beared this for the past few months now. If I have to be fake any longer I MAY POP! OH and also L at the beginning of the night made a comment to another girl that she didn't like me...and the other girl wanted to know if I knew...and L said "she must sense it"....so I kindly turned my head and did the biggest, cheesiest pageant smile I could muster so she would know I heard. I was not a pageant girl for nothing!
I am ready to call it quits and just not even show up for the wedding. I am done. Donzo. If I am in anyone else's wedding, and they pull these kinds of stunts, or say mean or rude things to me, I will let them know. Just like I will let Meaghan know today that I am hurt and upset with her and her friends behaviors from this past weekend.